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Resolutionizing: 2014.

New year, new leaf! Right?

I always make resolutions, and I never keep them. Lump me in with the 99.99% of the rest of the world who does the same. This year, though, I was inspired by a few discussions with my friend Hannah, and some serious navel-gazing on my own, to think about writing some down and hopefully really going after them with some serious stick-to-itiveness. 

So, here goes nothing?

2014 New Years Resolutions

1. Cook at least one new recipe a week. 

My Pinterest has an insane number of recipes on it. Very few of which I've attempted. I've never been much of a cook, largely due to having grown up with two parents who are phenoms in the kitchen (and therefore, with little impetus to learn to cook for myself). Throw in 4 years of college with a meal plan, and now a two-year relationship with a guy who's a pretty damn good cook himself, and I've just never gotten around to it. This year I'd love to change that. One new recipe a week would put me at around 50 (give or take) new efforts…there's got to be some wins hidden in there somewhere. 

2. Manage my closet/shopping habits in conjunction with each other more effectively. 

"Shopaholic" might as well be my middle name. I have a serious affinity for J.Crew, Anthropologie, Kate Spade, etc…and a serious wardrobe to match said affinity. This resolution is going to be two-fold: first, I am going to try to refrain from shopping as much as possible--unless it's urgently needed, I just plain won't buy. Second, for every article of clothing I bring in, I'm going to get rid of one article of that clothing. I.E. every time I decide I just neeeeeed another adorable J.Crew top…one of my current tops must go. Seems fair…we'll see how this goes!

3. Have at least one "event date" a month with Jon. 

This is my shamelessly cheesy "I love my boyfriend a lot" resolution. We'll have been together for two years this month, and accordingly, have gotten into a really comfortable rhythm relationship-wise. We have our favorite restaurants, our dates we like to have, heck, even our established preferred bedtimes (we're not night owls). While that is so great for my general happiness, I'd love to get us off the baseline every so often. Planning monthly "big nights out" will do that--whether it's a concert, play, sporting event, or totally new experience, it's important for me to remember to prioritize my relationship--including keeping it fresh. 

4. Focus on continuing friendships. 

I'm lazy about friends. It's not something I'm proud of--but like I said above, I get comfortable in a routine and it's really easy for me to use that to justify not being as social or giving of my time as I'd like to be. And I'm lucky enough to have some really great friends in the Twin Cities area! To promote those friendships for 2014, I'm going to try something a little different--I'm going to make sure I plan to see my friends early in the year, and every time I see a group of friends, I'm going to make sure I get another outing planned (as in, scheduled and in the books) before we're done. It'll force me to overcome some of the friendship inertia I've let myself develop, and friends always make me happier!

5. Call my grandma regularly. 

She's newly widowed, 90, and sweet and sad and alone. And she loooves her family. My grandpa passed away on Thanksgiving this year after a nearly-decade-long decline, and watching my sweet grandma Lo try to pick herself up and deal with everything is really humbling. I live half an hour from her, but even easier is picking up the phone--just to say hi, for five minutes. It's such a small thing, that could make such a good difference. 

6. Grow some succulents. 

I have no green thumb, but I love flowers and plants. Once it warms up, I fully intend to have potted flowers on our patio, but in the meantime, rather than spending major moolah on fresh flowers once a week, I'm going to get a couple succulents. Apparently they're totally foolproof…so it might be a nice way for me to get something in our apartment (other than the two of us) that's living!

7. Write more!

I've loved having this little blog so very much for the past couple months. It's a great outlet, it's a lasting record of what I'm thinking/feeling/caring about at this weird junction of my life, and best of all, it's 100% for me. I used to be such a great writer, and I used to write a lot. For this year, my goal is to write something every day. Whether it's an email to my sister, a summary of my day in my Jane-A-Day 365 Journal (so cute, more on that another time), or a little something here, I'm going to really focus on writing more. And notes!! Writing handwritten notes to people is a resolution I genuinely care about. Let's go with three notes a month, to somebody (anybody, really). 

8. Stop leaving my clothes in a pile on the floor. 

I am a notorious slob, and thanks to years of effort on the part of my mother and boyfriend, I'm starting to (try to) reform my bad habits. One of my worst is the tendency to leave my aforementioned extensive, expensive wardrobe piled on the floor. It drives Jon crazy, and it's even starting to bug me. Such a simple little thing--but all clothes will either go back on the hanger or into the laundry basket as soon as I'm done. 

9. Make smart, healthy choices. 

This one is SO simple: do something active for at least 30 minutes a day. Drink two glasses of green tea and 6-8 glasses of water a day. Wash my face every night before bed. Daily Listerine. Daily lotion. Basic. Shouldn't be that hard. Fingers crossed this is the year it stops seeming hard and becomes second nature!

10. Focus on maintaining a positive outlook. 

One of the saddest things to me in our culture is how easy it is to be so negative, when we have so much and our lives are, by and large, SO good. I've fallen into the trap of thinking really negatively about a lot of things! I'm going to focus on finding the bright spots and positives in my life every day, whether it's a really good commute, an achievement at work, cute kids/animals, something on the Internet that makes me smile…who knows? At any rate…this isn't quantifiable or really even something I can check off a list. Just a good thing to keep in mind, going forward. 

 

Here's to 2013--it was great. Here's to 2014--it's going to be even better. 

2013 in review.

Way back when this blog of mine was a fledgling little thing and I had even less of a clue what I was doing with it, I posted a really brief little music review of Bastille's "Pompeii." And I'm still hooked on that song--particularly the refrain. 

"But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing's changed at all?"

Well, kind of. 2013! What a year! Kind of a ridiculous, weird, transitional year, but sitting here at the end of it I have the weirdest feeling that nothing and everything has simultaneously changed (throw a little Taylor and Ed in for good measure why don't I?). So here I am, taking stock of everything I've done, seen, learned, regretted, and loved over the past year. 

Traveled

Appleton, Chicago (and its suburbs), and Owatonna for work with my Big 4 employer. Hilarity, boredom, stress, madness, and a whole lot of Candy Crush ensued. Airport confusion…opera house tours…a few really really memorable and delicious dinners…and, in Owatonna's case, a pretty great excuse to hang out with my parents and call my childhood home "home base" every time I spent time there. 

Oxford and Cincinnati, Ohio. My little Minnesota ex-pat siblings are calling this goofy state in, as I've heard it called, "the armpit of the US" home for now, and I'm kind of falling for it. Cincinnati is a surprisingly fun city to spend time in, and Oxford is just about the most charming and adorable college town I could imagine. 

Appleton (again) and South Bend for weddings. Let's talk about these weddings, because both of them were weddings for the record books. There's something great about how love is manifested in a wedding, and I can't get enough of them. We celebrated some great friends' days with them and couldn't have been happier for them (or more hungover after the madness ended). 

South Bend (again) for a Notre Dame game. I've already covered this, but God, do I feel lucky every time I get to revisit my beautiful alma mater and celebrate four of the happiest years I've lived. Even better was getting to bring some of my favorite people with me. Notre Dame is such a special place and I love getting there every time I can. 

Baltimore!, oh Baltimore!, for more quality time and best-friend bonding with my dearest Kaitlin. That city has my heart so hard, and I still don't really know if it's because she's there or because I genuinely think that it's just the greatest place. This time around, with Civil War battlefields, all-day concert festivals in the rain, lots of crab dishes, and cocktails galore, was one for the record books. 

Celebrated

My 24th birthday, in style, with great friends, "The Book of Mormon," my family, Jon, and a phenomenal dinner. Birthdays are so great because everyone loves and celebrates someone just for being alive. 

Emily's college graduation! Her four years at Miami University were so phenomenal and everything she accomplished was just insanely remarkable. Her success was recognized by her department at her ceremony, and I'm so proud of how awesome she is. 

The life of my grandpa Leo, who passed away on Thanksgiving at 90. It's always a blessing when someone's suffering ends (in his case, after nearly 10 years), and it was so amazing to hear the stories of his life from everyone who loved him. 

New careers for Jon and myself! Within six weeks of each other, we left our public accounting jobs and started work at an international P&C insurance company based in St. Paul. What a fantastic change for the better it's been so far!

Firsts

Vikings game--I witnessed one of the Vikings' few victories this season against the Redskins during the Metrodome's last season. 

Music festival--FreeFest, in Baltimore, blew my mind in every way, shape and form. 

Time cohabiting--Jon and I moved in together in my old place this May, and relocated to our brand-new, beautiful apartment in the Warehouse District this August. It's been a beautiful adventure so far. 

Book club--I'm in two now, and it's so fun to read and drink wine and chat with people on a semi-organized, usually monthly basis. 

Family

Lazy summer days on the boat…watching little brother Jonathan waterski, jamming to Jimmy Buffett and 70s funk classics, and soaking up sunshine. 

Sunday dinners with my parents and Jon…delicious food, great conversations, plenty of wine and kicking the week off right. 

Giving career and professional advice to my little brother as he navigates the world of business major life for the first time. Getting career and professional advice from my dad, who has been where I am before and has so much insight to share. 

Road tripping with my parents--twice--to Ohio. Stopping for beef jerky, remembering every rest stop, and driving through a tornado. 

Spending lots of time with my sweet cousins Emma and Sophie! Trips to the zoo, afternoons on the lake, dance recitals, and celebrating their 12th and 10th birthdays. They are so grown up and so wonderful!

Getting to know Jon's family better with trips to St. Cloud to see his sister, Wadena to spend time with his parents, and lots of fun visits, phone calls and meals. 

 

This doesn't even scratch the surface of a year in which I have grown up and changed SO much…a lot of the experiences I've had are so significant they'd take an entire novel to share, and others are so seemingly insignificant I've forgotten them already. Still--2013 has been a year for the record books, and I'm getting even more excited to see what 2014 holds after this look-back. Check out the video below, my year in Instagram, for a tiny peek into even more of why this year was great. 

 

Things that are making my life these days.

Just a quick little list of the things that are making me joyful:  

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1. The prospect of a bright, shiny, happy professional future that I am so excited about.  

2. A delightful boyfriend who greeted me with prosecco and a hilarious card upon my return home tonight.  

3. Two friends who are engaged...and for whom we are throwing a hilariously ironic informal engagement party tomorrow! 

4. Kate Middleton. Specifically, Kate Middleton being her typical perfect flawless self at Prince George's christening today. Geez woman.  

5. Cuddling sweet brand-new baby Kate, my cousin's fourth child, yesterday. Nothing better than a precious snuggly little one to brighten a day.  

6. Great food for the past few days: Cossetta's manicotti for lunch yesterday, Rojo quesadillas and margs last night, and homemade chicken korma and naan for dinner tonight. Yumyumyum.  

7. Wonderful jokes and bonding with my two co-seniors, who I am really enjoying having around these days.  

8. Getting off the hook for laundry this week--Jon did it for me today :) 

9. A wonderful experience at a new book club this Monday--my BFW (best friend from work) Hannah invited me. Review of "Orange is the New Black" forthcoming. Great experience and hilarious, fun and different new girls to befriend.  

10. Heart-to-hearts with my parents. Really, could anyone be more fortunate than me to have such unbelievably supportive and caring people in their life? 

 

Feeling all glowy and happy today. :) 

tids and bits.

Yikes. Already failing miserably and it's not even the end of Week One on this here blog. As I mentioned, I went to Chicago for training. To be more accurate, I went to the western suburbs of Chicago for training, which was an altogether different experience involving copious amounts of liquor, late-night Giordano's deep-dish pizza, and the most bizarrely wonderful Wednesday night out in the city.  

One of my co-seniors has an uncle who works in set design and buildwork for the Chicago Lyric Opera. We met up with him at Primebar in the Loop for delicious mascarpone mac-and-cheese balls and an unpleasantly medicinal acai martini (think Triaminic with a vodka tang), after which he suggested taking the four-block walk to the Lyric for a private backstage, after-hours tour. I drooled, died, and probably totally embarrassed myself with nerdy questions and an abnormal level of excitement. We walked across the rake (slanted stage) for the current production of "Otello," shuffled across the catwalks--my toes went numb and tingly from the fear of heights--and took the conductor's podium in the orchestra pit. It was, in a word, magical. 

Safe to say that was the highlight of my training week. By Thursday afternoon, we were bored and alcohol'd-out, and by Thursday night the three of us were feeling particularly apathetic and misanthropic, a trend which has carried over into my weekend with fairly unfortunate results.  

Some other musings:  

-One of my staff refused to wear a seatbelt and spilled green tea in my car on Friday after team lunch. Endlessly frustrated.  

-I ran a meeting, completely solo, with the controller, directors of financial reporting and upper management of my major client. Huge rush. My palms were sweaty with nerves for an hour.  

-Met several friends' new relationships, with mixed results. Interested to see how their integration into the social fabric of our circles develops. 

-I bought, among other things, a J.Crew Downtown Field jacket, new Williams Sonoma kitchen towels, and a six-pack of assorted Oktoberfest beers over the course of Thursday through Saturday.  

-Notre Dame beat USC in what was simultaneously the most tense and anticlimactic game of football ever. I never thought I'd say this, but please get well soon, Tommy Rees. Our offense misses you and, weirdly, so do I.  

-Caroline Smith and The Avett Brothers each have utterly transcendent new albums out. Can't wait to become better friends with these tunes and hopefully have more on those soon.  

It's my Papa Bear's birthday today! Off to work out, shower off the sweat and crankiness, and celebrate one of my favorite people in the world.  

Happy Sunday, campers.